Distraction

My favorite tactic for toddlers that are wreaking havoc "exploring" the world is distraction. If a toddler is playing in toilet water (although I suggest trying to keep the lid closed or the door shut for safety purposes, but for example sake, let's go with this scenario), instead of saying, "No", just scoop them up and tickle them or even better, take them to play a little bit in the water from the sink. They are learning and growing by trying and discovering new things. Save the "No" for when you really have to use it (in like 5 minutes). If they are pulling out all your Ziploc baggies, help them clean up (while singing the "Clean-Up" song to keep your frustrated-I've cleaned up 50 messes today voice in check) and then fly them like an airplane to the toy room. Distraction also works (sometimes) for a young child who is whining or defiant or having a melt down. Again, "sometimes". And "sometimes", we get into a power struggle or battle of will. It happens. But on a good day, try distraction. Maybe discover something so fascinating and look at it with another child and they may just come over to and forget the tiny rock in their shoe that made them fall to the ground crying. Or magically find some fruit snacks and exclaim that you will share with who ever beats you to the car if that is the battle. Don't stop to see if they take the bait, just run!

Potential

Our kids don't always act as "good" as we know they can be. But they are divine. If a child is unkind, obviously teaching in is order. But don't treat them like they are a mean person. Tell them you are disappointed in them because you know they are such a kind person and kind people treat people right. Teach them about repentance and forgiveness and trying better next time. But treat them as though they are the kindest person in the world....and they will be (eventually).